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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.

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Dear Friend,

Thank you for your email. It is painful to deal with the knowledge that a husband has been cheating. I know how you are feeling, my thoughts go out for you. I am glad you are not considering getting back together with this man who shows no signs of regret after betraying you with more than one woman and who has been mistreating you also in many other ways during your relationship. Your life would most likely be quite miserable with him. You said that he is not even trying to make you feel he cares, but is nevertheless asking if you would take him back. You suspected that he would want to keep the relationship with you and simultaneously keep the current lover on the side. It sounds like your husband is not really sorry in his heart for what he has done, since he is not even trying to make you feel he loves you and cares for you.

If you would get back together with your husband, you would have very hard time forgetting all the lies related to his previous affair and the fact that he was acting like a single man while he was going out with this current girl. If he was remorseful and apologetic and would really want to make the relationship with you work, there might be a chance for you to get over the painful memories related to cheating and to learn to trust him again. Please read this article of How to Get Over Cheating to get an idea of what to expect if you would try to work things out with your husband. In order for you to reach phase 4 of the recovery process (see the article), your husband would have to be very supportive and you should be able to trust that he will not lie to you again. If you feel your husband is not be capable of doing this, there is no point in wishing to get back together with him, since that would only prolong your suffering. (Click the link below to read the rest of this reply).

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Dear Friend, my thoughts are with you. Stay strong! Concentrate on yourself and on your children and shut out the negative thoughts related to this man who has made you feel so miserable and betrayed your trust several times with at list two different women. Let a bit of time pass, and you will see your mood starts to improve. Time is on your side. Eventually you shall be happy that you managed to get out from a dishonest relationship. I recommend you to read the articles and stories on this website, they will help you to feel better and to learn to control the painful emotions instead of letting your emotions control you. You can start for example with this article: Controlling the Emotions.

Remember that you are not alone. Please write to me anytime you feel like it.

Warm hug,

Maria

• |2012-04-13 00:10:55 Almel  - Break up
  I have been in a relationship for 20 years. My ex has been lying, cheating and now I have to have a restraining order to get him out of the house. He has been abusing me physically, verbally, emotionally and same for my children. Now, he has a rebound girlfriend with 2 kids, he met on-linne a few weeks, before we broke up. Now, he is seeking custody of the children. We had a very tearful 2-1/2 years going thru up & down and refuse to separate until I took action. Somedays, I feel really emotionally drained, but he had a few affairs and it is all my fault. After spending 20 years with someone whom you built your foundation and future with, it is emotional damage. I recognised that the relationship wasn't working, but why will my ex-husband abuse me so much infront of my children. He even bring his rebound girlfriend at the soccer game within 1 month of the break-up. Knowing that I still have feeling for him. Not only am I dealing with the loss, but seeing him with the rebound girlfriend...He even have my children met the rebound girlfriend the first week, he got involved with her. What kind of an ass will do that? I am going for a messy divorce...
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