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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world. If you wish to read more about me, please visit page Site Overview.

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I promised to continue the story I started in my previous entry. I will be writing about these things in this blog as they come to my mind, please feel free to follow my blog to get support and encouragement for your situation. I know how you are suffering with your narcissistic partner, otherwise you would not have looked for this kind of information. From this website you find support and help to break free from the mental addiction to "your" narcissist. It is not an easy road, but you are not traveling alone. We are all traveling together. Keep following my blog and keep up with the new additions (articles, personal stories etc) on this website. This website was created to help YOU. You are the reason this site exists. Please feel free to return to share the path to recovery with all of us.

In my previous entry I wrote about the mental hooks narcissist had embedded into my brain, preventing me to get over him. All sorts of feelings were spinning around in my head after I made the final decision to cut "my" narcissistic partner loose. I felt occasional moments of weakness, but I quickly silenced the voices of doubts in my mind. I knew I had made the right decision when I left him.

We all want to feel our lives have some kind of a meaning. Narcissists are giving us a false meaning, we start to dream of "wonderful" future with this wonderful person, who is too good to be true, and on top of that he or she loves US! When we start to see the true colors of a narcissist, we have to give up on our dreams. That is the reason we feel so hurt and it is so difficult to break free. We are not really missing a narcissist, we are missing our dreams. It is important to realize this. Once we understand this fact, we start to see the bigger picture. We start to see BEYOND our dreams and slowly we start to realize what this life is all about. Life is not about the dreams, the PRESENT MOMENT is what counts. We can die any day. All we can be sure about is this moment. We need to organize our lives in such a way that we can feel happy TODAY. Narcissists can never make us happy. So we mus leave them behind. We must pursue our own personal dreams, not the twisted, unrealistic visions we shared with a narcissist.

Now I must go, but I will get back tomorrow with some more insights regarding these matters. Until then, BIG HUG to all of you!!!!

- Maria

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Comments (6)

• |2012-03-09 19:51:53 Benita Britten  - Amazing Truths
  I am married to a Narcissist for sure! Can you believe it for 32 years. We are seperated now because of his adulterous affair. I was shocked at the amazing truths that unfolded on this very informative website around the character of the person I lived with all theses years. I'm not the 'angel' I also have faults and failures like we all have. But wow! I read the Character Traits and how spot on. I cannot believe I was trapped in this dysfunctional behaviour and thought I just had to take it -even blame myself. I was so broken end 2011 when we planned a white christmas together and he claims that during an argument he just snapped. He then cancelled my ticket and went alone-said he needed a break- whilst he booked me into a clinic. When he returned I found a hotel voucher with a mistress name on it! Our adult daughter and I then checked out the name on facebook and lo and behold - the lady was very excited that she found new love. I copied the page and printed all the FB postings. We then confronted him and obviously he played it down saying he did not ask for it to happen blah blah blah and that he just snapped. Well the rest is history he shacked up with his next victim. I'm reading all your valuable advice on letting go and will use the tact to get out what is due to me. Thank you so much for this great awareness and information that will set so many people free!
  
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• |2011-09-21 18:07:54 unes
  I've been involved with full blown N for the past 12 months. There were some good times but then it went bad. I knew there was something wrong on the first date because he was talking about big huge business deals and he asked if he could come home with me that night. Even though we just met that night. Hes not that bad but, i need to get away from him. Reading all this brilliant information is helping. One night in the early days he said 'i'll meet you at the cinema' and didn't show up. A few minutes later he called and said ' i'll meet you in the pub' and didn't shoe up there either. I hope i can let him go...
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• |2011-08-17 22:52:03 Anonymous  - 23yearslater - Still Dealing with Him
  Make sure someone knows about your concerns and can help you should he go off on you, dont risk your well being on a maybe. These people become unstable at the drop of a pin and for no apparent logical reason. Document,document,document,record, keep notes and records for the just in case. Hopefully you will never need them.
  
  I'm mot a little guy and Im strong as an ox my ex and her behavior bothered me enough to protect myself from being harmed when I never suspected it. She tried to remove a weapon from the safe but I fortunatly intercepted her efforts before things got out of hand. Would she have used it? I was not going to find out.
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• |2011-08-17 21:29:18 23yearslater  - Still Dealing with Him
  It has been one year since I asked him to leave and our divorce has been final for two months.
  
  He is still trying to bully and intimidate me. He wants to claim the interest and property taxes on the house that he didn't live in and didn't pay for in 2010. He sent multiple texts demanding that I provide documents for him immediately. When I told him that I would look for them he sent a message that said "Find Them." I finally realized that I had provided his attorney all the documents he was requesting during the divorce proceedings. I told him to get them from his attorney. He kept texting me and I finally had to tell him not to text me anymore tonight.
  
  The intimidation does not easily stop. I have to be so careful now. I am not sure he is entirely stable mentally. He is very easily agitated and seems to be cylical in his emotional moods. I do not want to poke the bulldog by pressing harassment charges unless that is my only option. I am afraid of repercussions.
  
  I don't know when I will be entirely free of this man. It is exhausting. Setting boundaries and trying to maintain them without risking further incidents.
  
  Life after Narcissism - I am not there yet.
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• |2011-09-06 16:47:14 Anonymous
  You should be careful because if you trip his trigger he might ruin you in someway. They are rutheless. But; you should not recieve txt from him or any contact except what is absolutely necessary. He is still playing you and he's gone! Also sometimes it might just be better to lose a little so you can be rid of him. In the end you still win because now you are free and can heal and move on. Just be careful not to find yourself falling for another narc.
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• |2011-09-06 16:50:24 Anonymous
  Unless there are kids involved you shouldn't have any contact. Change your phone. Why do you even answer. You need to get control of yourself and YOU stop letting him back in even if it's txxt messaging you are still allowing it therefore you stay in the misery.
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