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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.
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I just added a new article to section Personal Stories: Narcissistic Spouse. It is very difficult to get mentally rid of a narcissist. The aim of this article is to help you to see your situation more clearly and to give you the strength if you are dealing with similar problems in your relationship. It is always helpful to read about the experiences of others who have been through what you are going through.
So many people all around the world are suffering due to problems related to a relationship with a narcissistic person. Please do not wait too long if you are feeling miserable in your relationship. I know how difficult it is to let go, but as you will see when you read this article, in the end it is definitely worth it. Here is a link: Getting Mentally Rid of a Narcissist
- Maria
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So I found my husbands lover in m...
17 years down the line...why google narcissism now???
1st i thought it was me. coming from a delapidated dysfunctional family and all(they know just how to choose us, dont they..bastards)
Ok, the reason why i'm upset enough now, is because HE told my 13 year old daughter this: "when your mother was pregnant with you, i had an affair with another Aunty(lets call her Office-Slut, shall we)"
Now after years of emotional (often too subtle for me to realize what was going on)battering, I have come to realize that i don't love him anymore...duh
The reason...other than the critisism, the numerous cheating and lying about it, and making as if i was acting abnormal and jealous.forbidding me to have ladies nights...critisizing the radio station i listened to, the books i read, even critisizing me for wanting 'sex'(if u could call it that) 2 nights in a row.(he'd say"don't become like your mother"
Also the clever manouvering of putting all our assets in a trust, making me feel quite strapped down...lying about certain aspects about it...having to fight to be a trustee...etc.(i'll explain more later)...the fact that he's got me by the short and curlies doesn't help much either=i'm an at home mommy, with 3 daughters. He provides for us very well financially(inflating his already inflated ego to gigantic proportions)(selfrightious and unscrupelous, unfealing etc)..at the home front he doesn't help with the kids education at all.which is fine, cause i see it as my work...but BUT he contradicts me often, which really pisses me off. He does it on purpose of course...he is being nasty and know where it hurts most. Being a product of an idiotic family has not equipped me to deal with this expert in conflict situations...always started by him...always. i dear not ever say anything against him. even sugar coated prodding is seen in a negative light.
He confessed about the affairs 4 years ago, just after the Trust-issue...
So basically its taken it's toll on my ability to adore him, admire him, love him, respect him
etc, you know what i mean...
so with his little wifey not kissing his arse anymore he is turning into JR Ewing and worse
Also for background info... He is wheelchair bound...Not an invalid though as you can imagine.Nope he is a skilled people's person and a very succesfull business man.
He is a binge alcoholic...not a self confessed one obviously...His Grandfather was an alcoholic. His cousin is an alcoholic. His brother died of alcoholism at age 25.
So do the math...its not difficult to figure out.
Also, you'll love this...He blames me for the Trust issues and the affairs because "i was not a bitch enough"
Believe me he would have dropped me the first week if i'd ever been a bitch for one second in my life.
He abused and misused and manipulated and controlled me like the freak he is. Now what is left is an extremely confused angry 40 year old bitch who has to sleep in my youngest daughter's spare bed, because i'm not letting him near me.
So coming back to my 'now very confused 13 year old hormonal daughter'...Last weekend i confronted him about various issues and tried to scare him into behaving himself by threatening him. I said i will expose him for the lying cheat he is to his parents and daughters if he doesnt stop his shit.(which of course i would never do...and he knows it)
That same day he told her that he'd had an affair. Now up to this day i, of course know of the affairs, because he'd confessed 4 years ago, but when i prodded him for details as to when it started and when it stopped, he said he could'nt tell me...(couldn't or wouldn't or cant remember???)(no he couldn't, and that is what i got, and had to be satisfied with that)
Now after my poor daughter told me, NOW only do i know when it started!!!f-ing bastard.
The whole purpose of this letter, is this then..please help me to understand why he did this to her!!!
I could still handle most of (no i'm lying, i can't handle it)..but u know what i mean...
Leave my kids out of it though!!! What i don't understand is that he does care for them, and even though he does critisize them, it is still at a 'normalish' level.